Dependency?

dependency takes place due to various reasons.. it could be due to the lack of confidence, the desires for security and support, the fear of having no guidance or support, of being unwanted or unworthy of love, the need for reassurance, or to one who doesnt know what to do next and freezes up in stressful situations..

i realised a little dependency is definitely heart-warming. it makes us have a sense of security and we dun feel lost and alone. i mean in life, im quite sure everyone, if not most will want someone to depend on, someone they can go to seek comfort, to count on.. regardless of how strong the person is, there will definitely be a time when he or she breaks down and need a listening ear or a shoulder to lean on. However it shouldnt be excessive.. Being overly-dependent makes us loose our sense of direction and we might feel lost and disorientated when that certain thing we used to depend on disappears oneday..

Moreover when we were too dependent on it, we tend to neglect the many other things that were around us in which we might regret after realising it.. by then it probably would have been too late since the damage has been done, the pain had been inflicted. i guess thats what it meant by in gaining something, we loose other things in the process. We should let ourselves be expose to other things and not be too sheltered..

Whether its towards something or even that particular someone, we shouldnt be overly reliant.. as afterall it ultimately depend solely on ourselves to succeed (: